Whoa! That sounds like a medical disorder. Something like that would require a patient and spouse to sit down and have the bad news gently broken to them by a kind, understanding doctor. Towards the end of the discussion, the doctor would explain how many days, weeks, or months that the patient can expect to survive.

Luckily, internal schisms aren’t as serious…or are they? Let’s take a deeper dive into this seldom used word. The definition of the word schism is ‘a split or division between strongly opposed sections or parties, caused by differences in opinion or belief.’

Taking that to an internal standpoint adds a whole different element which is what I want to touch on here. Are you struggling with your own internal divisions over decisions that you need to make? Do you find yourself stuck in the mud? Do you feel like you’re constantly thinking about which way to turn at this fork in the road?

This is obviously an unproductive situation and one that we all face. Reminds me of the song by the Clash from 1981 entitled “Should I Stay or Should I Go”. The lyrics in the chorus continue with, “If I stay there will be trouble, if I go it will be double. So you’ve gotta let me know, should I stay or should I go?” Yes, I know. This is a popular song by a punk rock group from the 80’s but there’s so much that translates to our internal schisms topic. Here’s what you can do to help you solve these issues more decisively and quickly. Your goal is to start using this method so that it’s as automatic as what you learned in elementary school if you ever found yourself on fire. Stop, Drop, and Roll!

  1. Get to a quiet place and eliminate any distractions or interruptions
  2. Brain dump and write down the schism in sufficient detail
  3. On a clean sheet of paper, make a capital ‘T’ and start writing down on one side of the ‘T’ the positives and on the other side, the negatives of the schism. You may have to use 2 separate ‘T’s’ if there are positive and negatives about 2 different decisions your considering
  4. Once you’ve organized your thoughts, your decision, in most cases, becomes clearer. Now that you’ve done your due diligence, make the decision and move on! You’ve probably heard the phrase that you only have to be right 51% of the time. If you’ve come to the fork in the road and you’ve decided to pitch a tent and stay for a few months, you’re killing your productivity.
  5. Last but not least, seek wise council if you need additional back up. Someone who you trust and respect to get another set of eyes on the situation. It’s even better if this person is completely detached from the outcome. <Insert Coach’s Name Here> may be able to help with that, if you catch my drift!

Don’t forget the wisdom of Abraham Lincoln who said, “A house divided against itself cannot stand.” You are that house, my friend. Clear up your schisms quickly so you can stand and move forward!